James 3:13-18
"Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace."
Spiritual wisdom is not offensive, rude, selfish, envious, or proud, for those are the characteristics of our former sinful life. True wisdom is from God and has His characteristics, of which 6 are mentioned in this passage..
First, it is pure: We must be upstanding in the way we act out our Christian life and must have constraint on our personal thoughts and desires.
Second, it is peaceable: Essentially meaning that we should not be argumentative with one another or wish to cause strife.
Third, it is gentle: We should be willing to go through mistreatment for the cause of Christ in all humility and kindness.
Fourth, it is yielding: We ought to be teachable and obedient to God's Word, knowing that we are always to continue to grow and become more mature in our faith.
Fifth, it is merciful and helpful: We are to be compassionate on all who need, whether spiritual or physical, and to always be willing to forgive.
Sixth, it is without partiality: We are to demonstrate Christian love and fairness to all men, making no distinctions, for all are equal in God's eyes.
If we love peace, seek it out, take hold of it, and live it daily, and if we do not cause strife, are gentle to all, even to those who disagree with us or wish to harm us, then the result will be the righteousness of Christ and the wisdom of God.
"How much better to get wisdom than gold!
And to get understanding is to be chosen rather than silver."